Pivotal For Partners
Introduction
Pivotal For Partners is a guided 16 session course for those impacted by a loved oneโs sex or porn addiction. Whether you’re reeling from recent discovery or feeling stuck in ongoing pain, this course offers clarity, validation and practical support.
Using the SURF framework, youโll learn how to stabilise, understand your emotional responses, rebuild your sense of self and make empowered decisions about the future.
Whatโs Included
- 16 sessions to guide and support your own healing
- Emergency survival session for really tough days
- Easy, discreet access from any internet enabled device, and via iOS and Android Apps
- Interactive workbook with exercises to help you personalise your learning and record your progress
- Lifetime access
What Youโll Learn
- How to recognise addiction and its impact
- Tools to manage trauma and intense emotions
- How to set boundaries and protect yourself
- Ways to rebuild confidence and self-worth
- Support for deciding your next steps
Course Info
Sessions 1-3 – Facing the reality of sex and porn addiction
In these first sessions we explore what sex and porn addiction really is and why it hurts partners so much. Weโll look at some common myths and misconceptions and explore how the different types of disclosure can compound the pain that partners feel. Weโll also try and answer the crucial question โ how do you know if itโs an addiction or an excuse?
From session 4, we begin learning how to SURF…
Sessions 4-6 – Survive the trauma
In these sessions we start to look at the 4 steps of recovery of SURF.ย Weโll look at the most common reactions to discovery and disclosure and youโll receive guidance and practical strategies for managing difficult emotions. Our focus will be on establishing emotional stability by managing the urgent questions and establishing boundaries and accountability.
Sessions 7-9 –ย Understand the Cycle of Reaction
Most partners find themselves struggling with triggers that can catapault them from coping one minute to being in free fall the next. These practical sessions will help you to recognise your reaction cycle and develop ways of avoiding triggers whenever possible and developing positive ways of managing the unavoidable ones.
Sessions 10-12 – Repair self-identity and self-esteem
Relational betrayal can have a devastating impact on partner’s self-identity and self-esteem. These sessions will help you to feel grounded again by getting you back in touch with other essential elements that define you. Youโll also learn some practical strategies to improve communication and rebuild your self confidence.
Sessions 13-16 – Face the future
Our final sessions focus on the future. Can the relationship survive?ย Will you ever be able to trust again? With lots of practical strategies, youโll learn how to recognise when your partner is in true recovery and how you can begin to face the future, whatever it may hold.

Important notice for those purchasing courses on behalf of their partner: Please ensure that your partner has their own unique account with a separate email address. This is to ensure that all course materials and personal workbooks remain private to the person taking the course.ย
Please be aware this is a digital product with immediate access which means purchases are non-refundable. All correspondence with Pivotal Recovery is kept in the strictest confidence and we will never share your data.
โ "The course was presented in a way that was informative without being convoluted or confusing. It has given me understanding of how to let go which is information that had somehow passed me by even after 2 years of therapy. I wish this course had been available at the beginning of my recovery journey, but Iโm appreciative that it is available now, not only for myself but for every partner who needs validation of their pain and how it doesnโt have to be forever. Highly recommend." "A great course to take time for myself, while better understanding my partner behaviour and shape a better future."
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